A Slightly Contrarian Christmas Message
December 21st, 2007
The Christmas season has many traditions of course, not the least of which in business circles is the warm and heartfelt well wishing to clients, partners, vendors, co-workers, and even blog readers. In today’s world where face to face interaction grows more scarce each year, it is conveyed in emails, Christmas cards, newsletter headers, and as a key highlight in our phone conversations. Especially on the phone, there are times when you can tell how sensitive the other party is about whether to say Merry Christmas vs Happy Holidays, as well as whether it is said out of the obligation of tradition, or it overflows from our personal joy of the season.
Inherent within this happy tradition is a curious subtext. I can best describe it as a memory flash of the year’s value points. A repeated assessment of how we have arranged our priorities and treated those we are fostering relationship with. For me, whenever I wish another a very merry Christmas, my memory flash highlights a summary of all my interactions we have had together over the year. My mind multi-tasks between my relationship checklist and the engagement of the conversation itself.
If you are like me, here is how it might sound in your head. “Have I honored his/her expectations of the relationship this year?”, “Have I kept all my promises and been on time?”, “Have I conveyed appreciation in proportion to the degree I have been blessed by this person?”, “Does he/she fully appreciate the value of the vision I am casting to them?”, “How well have I imparted the value of my vision/passion to them, and how can I reinforce that in this conversation?”, “Is there any deficit of mercy or generosity between us in either direction?”
The epitome of this checklist can in many ways come down to this…
Is my Christmas well wishing an extention of the ‘peace on earth, goodwill to men’ message that should be part of what my life and character speaks on a daily basis, or is it just a seasonal tradition where time is set aside to be just a little more people oriented than is my natural state?
The philosophical answer is that both are true. The tradition forces the introspection and inspires us (at least those of us who give a flip) to endeavor for positive change all year round. And, our character is what enables our confidence and credibility when these greetings are passed between us every holiday season.
I love it all, and truly feel that although this year has been an amazing formidable challenge, that the sincere peace I feel right now is sufficient to keep me aligned and in good stead with all of you as well.
Be generous to one another with abundant love, and strive for mercy. That is ultimately how all this will be scored in the end.
Andrew



December 22nd, 2007 at 12:38 pm
I couldn’t agree more with you Andrew…and Merry Christmas!
Dennis
December 24th, 2007 at 11:46 am
A little amendment to this story… It is easier said than done. (Just in case any of you read my post over the weekend and thought I had it all figured out.)
Last night I had a bunch of people over and got grouchy when it got late, loud and a touch disrespectful. I didn’t have to react in anger, but got frustrated and chose to get uptight.
Well, there is always tonight and tomorrow. I will always need a bit of mercy even as I know I am working to show it as well.